Do You Aspire To Be a Wedding Planner? Wedding Planning Courses & Wedding/Event Seminars Now Ready!

Have you been through college only to find you just have no passion for the "speciality" you worked your buns off to get? Yes, I feel your pain..Meet "Kindergarten" teacher! I was given 7-8th grade Social Studies/Science...Two of the worst subjects- No-where near a darling 5 year old who will remember me as I taught them how to tie their shoe or read. The $21K per year in 1990 wasn't music to my ears, I wanted to move out- Be independent-I had wanted that since age 7 to be honest...:)

Questions Questions and More Questions for you!

Do you have the drive to make something happen no matter the challenge? Are you a leader and not follower?

If you have said YES YES YES...Watch this video- it's 22 minutes long I was told it's worth it...You have all asked of my career or this career in general. I give you 100% permission to download it share+ I know many watch us on Whose Wedding and sometimes email all of us...I try to answer the basic questions on my blog. Now that I am working on my own show and new partnership, which I CANNOT wait to share...I will be bloggin away!

Here's some insight..The Career and Passion

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First, I have to say,  I LOVE your emails!  You make me feel like "Superwoman" or "Wonder Woman" (she was hot!) when you share how you aspire to be where I am. I wish I could call every one of you and/or email back. This video will answer your questions I assure you. Your questions esp from WPatterson (Ha) are all the same you guys!

I am honest, the road to "this" level wasn't easy.  It was lonely at times and still is I started from scratch, I had no idea about the east coast. I teach you what not to do, that's the honest "verbiage" to share my ROCKY start in NY/NJ/PA.

I thank you all for your patience during my craziness aka "Growth Spurts". We had some amazing classes this year! Everyone passed with flying colors-and I am happy we are expanding once again. Possibly to a larger facility not in Summit. Or I may keep Summit and expand more north...I have no idea!

For the month of December I have 1 week for a possible class, I cannot work with Jan as I am on tour. The dates I've shared with those who want the wedding planner certification course CP (Certified) The date of Dec 21 and 22 are possible openings...I have 21 students who have asked for the following-

1. Sales Personality Profiling (The course is 5 hours in length and does include lunch, snacks and more snacks etc) Fee: $500 Max 25 ppl. This is for any company in the event world, who may be ready to change the old, and get the new with less work...I have been asked about financial aid esp our Raritan students, the entire budget went towards Sandy for 2012. I hope you will agree, this is/was what was needed. In return, I will grant (2) 30 minute calls after the class to assist with any area of sales. Every company is different and this time is very valuable as it's you and I!

Ps...If you were a Sandy Victim, I will ensure you are able to take this course and if I need to waive the majority of the fee-so be it. I know you have enough on your plate, and I would not feel right taking from something you don't have. Please do not be ashamed to share this, we all want to help as much as we can. I am not going to add in a toaster if you sign today, but if you needed one, I would gladly hand it over. I don't play games like this. I take this career very seriously.

2. Event Design (Yes, FINALLY a hands on course for floral, tablescapes, lighting and more...) Fee includes all supplies, meals, and one on one workshops with your own designer from our team...This class is FABULOUS for those who are crafty and feel they can work with some decor and budget clients...I have a celebrity designer teaching with me- The class is 5 hours in length and fee is $500 It was originally $650. Pls disregard previous fee proposals-If you have put a deposit for this class you will all receive the same discount (We have already reached out to 7 students and this is now reflected on your deposit, if you did not receive your receipt or email confirmation, please email us). When you have completed the course and test (same day) you will also receive your certificate. Of course I have wine, chocolate and food- We have to celebrate every milestone!

3. Beginning a career as an Event Planner...This course is 2 full days and they are not together- The dates we are looking at based on the wait list and max of 12 students (I do apologise for this, I think 12 is my own max and do not feel more would be fair to those who need more hands on),
Dates: Dec 22nd (Summit NJ Location) 10:30am-4pm...You will have holiday break as we are the same with Raritan and WPatterson referrals...We will complete the 2nd day Jan 5th 11am-4pm.

3a. The course "Beginning a Blissful Career" will have a mandatory amount 15 intern hours needed to graduate 1 of 3 main objectives.  If you are a Raritan CC Student, pls ask for the lab time worksheet (CEU)...We cannot use the ones we offer for our students attending our specific school. You will need this for credit. Rutger's is also another CC which will have a mandatory time-log based on "their" specific criteria. I have this info should you need it.

Intern hours generally happen during the week, and we can work with you on evenings w/ misc clients and or daytime for our clients whom are in school, but are due to be wed!  (How crazy right?) They most likely will have the day off to meet with vendors or see their "reveal". You will LOVE this portion, it's what a designer lives for! Finally we can show them their vision-It's delightful, it truly is! The weekends will most certainly be for weddings you observe and partake in.

3b. Intern Hours: You will be trained on making/accepting incoming calls, setting proper appts with vendors/clients, research for specific items that are applicable for the client you are assigned to work with. This is not limited to taking new client info from our new inquiring brides to be!

You will also be "present" during actual appts as well as meeting with the same client on more than 1 occasion. You will also be trained with percentages of budgets, how to develop a "Bridal Blueprint" and allow for the client to distribute their budgets appropriately.

This particular focus and training will be the last portion of the class. Each student will be planning portions of a specific wedding. You will all be working with various clients/vendors prior to the day of, rehearsal if applicable and the day of the event.

Who determines your fate? Your client aka "The Bride". She is the final sign off of the CP certification. Please keep in mind, I am not looking for perfection, nor are they...We look for consistency with-in the industry and monitoring how adaptable you are when not with senior staff present. They will have a specific questionnaire and will seek nothing more than the skills you have learned. Brides if you are interested in helping an intern, we will share rates that allow for 1-2 students and a senior wedding planner a very discounted rate in return for your patience and cooperation with their duties and the sign off...Pls inquire.

We don't put the "cart before the horse" or throw you in a melting pot with a stressed bride...We ensure that the main areas of focus are met. The feedback we have received is great thus far and while it may not always be 100% perfect, that is OK. You do not want to claim you are perfect in the world of celebrations, your human, humans make mistakes. We learn from them, and we ensure the same issues do not occur again. We replace the mistake or mishap with something positive.

Skill-set and specifics I tend to look for are very similar to many online courses and/or business courses at the associates level or wedding certification programs. If I have been in the industry for over 23 years, you have to trust, this is the best way to learn. Hands on is great, you just need to ensure what you have your "hands on" is in-line with what you will need to master this career long term.

If you feel you want to invest more than the 15 hours required as an intern ( This is a frequent ask), you are most welcome to join us observe, multi task and more. Once you have reached the 15 hours which is the prerequisite for my course and many other CC-Accredited programs, you will not have the liberty using the coverage for extra credit.  We are truly sorry but the extra hours cannot be converted to credit esp for any college in NJ/NY/PA. This is also applicable for Skype sessions, our specific classes (decor etc)/courses and or conference calls.

Fee: Raritan CC, Rutgers, WPatterson, Penn Foster students receive 20% off the wedding planning certification program. You will need to show us valid proof (School ID, Statement of tuition etc) that you are indeed still a student of the colleges listed above.

Student fee with our fully stocked *Bridal Kit On Wheels- $1200.00 less 20%  $960.00
Student fee w/o *Bridal Kit on Wheels $1100 less 20%  $880.00

Non-Student Fee with Bridal Kit on Wheels $1250.
Non-Student Fee without Bridal Kit on Wheels $1050.00

 Includes all paperwork, tools, USB Keys, "Bridal Emergency Kits" on Wheels" (It's my most popular request, it's filled with every item you will need to solve any mishaps, hemming, headaches, and a small booklet of fast solutions for damaged floral, bridal gowns and dirt, oil+) You will have a choice of color and this will be given to you once you have that fabulous certificate in hand and giving me the honor of signing it.  I want to remember the day you started as a CP!

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*Bridal Kit on Wheels-you may opt to sign-up for this course without the kit, if you should decide after the course you would like to purchase one- we will still honor the same price. You save $100. It's based on availability as we know you guys want it right after the end of the class! The more we order the more of a discount they extend to us. In August, we were given 3 free bags so as a team everyone had a $38.00 savings!

Our programs also include meals, parking and any applicable tools needed for the wedding planning certification that you sign up for. If hotel stays are needed, I have preferential rates that will not be a huge expense at all. Remember, I refer clients to many hotels and in return they are sometimes very generous in offering competed rooms or a family rate.
This is also applicable for flight, bus, train etc..Pls inquire when you sign for the course and after you have received the green light of this class being applicable for you. If you are advanced, this would not be a wise investment unless you have been out of this career for a period of time and need that refresher and "update"- I think we all need refresher courses! I learn from my students every single class I teach. I pass it along to the next group!

OK fabulous planners in works! The dates are not set in stone and it's first come/first service- We do have a waiting list as we had cancelled our Oct class due to Sandy. This date may not work for some, please let us know your Jan (First week only as I am on tour) schedule ladies if that works best. Sundays, which you know I treasure, if that is what works esp for our Oct Plannies...I will absolutely make it happen.

Thank you again for being so patient! Email info@samanthagoldberg.com (908-219-4028) we will email the application for the course and start the process!! Pls make note, not all students will be approved for Dec offerings, it's based on skillset and the majority of those already signed. We will certainly start a roster for those who might require something a bit more substantial...I don't want to waste your time with basics if your past this portion of your career and/or the majority of the students are entry level.

See ya in class ladies!

Samantha

What are we on Google? We're a wedding planning school which offers various event planning certification programs. We teach floral design classes, Event Planning Educational Courses, private wedding planning certification programs via Skype and in person NYC and Metro...Skype Wedding Seminars...

Sandy The Hurricane & Event Planning Skillset

I am sure for those who follow my blog outside the US, you were shown some very sensitive and disturbing photos and footage of our most recent nightmare.

I am not even sure if the word "nightmare" even gives it justice. I was so happy to hear how quickly America especially on the east coast was onto a way to help those who lost everything. It's easy to tell someone who may be robbed of items in their home, it's going to be OK. However, what is it like to not only have items taken away, but have mother nature to blame.?

I watched footage and it was cold, lifeless and sad. I cried watching those who just looked clueless- where do you start when you have 30-50-++ years gone? Where does one begin when their favorite socks, chair, or even something as simple as a coffee mug that their son or daughter made for them just disappears? These items were taken away and no answers on how to bring these very inexpensive yet priceless items back?

I watched a woman show us where her home WAS- not even an ounce of it's structure left...Not a tangible memory uncovered..Until she found one of her treasures...A photo of her mom and dad that had passed...It was their wedding photo and the only one she ever had. She questioned "where is my home"? It wasn't there. It was gone. It's not coming back. I wanted to jump through the TV and hug her, share warmth from my heart and allow for her to feel she has support...This is just one person and there are so many more...I feel so empty for all affected.

I want to bring back all of those memories for each and every person who suffered more than some damage as I know others who lost it all. I know I cannot grant that wish. It reminds me of times that occurred before I was born. It reminded me of pictures in black and white such as the concentration camps during the Holocaust. I don't think I am exaggerating- I think these people feel like something died...and I agree, it did. So what happens? What if their home was all they had? What if they have no friends or family and now, no home? What happens to these people?

I always question assistance during emergencies and wonder why they have chosen the methods to save others in a time of need. I wonder if the money we donate goes directly to those in need. I assure you, it doesn't. It costs money to hire trucks, gas, flight etc..so what percentage really goes to the people and their specific needs? Is it like a 3 world country that allows 30% for those in need and 70% for the government? I cannot believe I am thinking these things, I cannot help but wonder.

It occurred to me during the days we watched life unveil like a horrible movie- The proper format of help has not been mastered... Maybe, assistance such as that of an event planner and many of them would be more efficient than just the emergency crews. I am not saying that they should not be shown much gratitude, but seriously, based on what we know of the world, donated funds and more...we are certainly smart enough to know how to divide and conquer.

Ladies and Gentlemen shouldn't we be doing more? I wonder during the power outages who spent their entire battery or access to wireless looking for connections to get to an area where they had been forgotten...They had nothing- and no one could get in or out...I was grateful to connect with new friends on Twitter who reached out allowing me to try and help...and I hope I had some impact...The good news, was one Tweeter" shared a message from a friend he could not find for days...She said she was OK. She shared in broken format, what it was like...asking for help, not sure what that help looked like....Again, I thought to myself, if we orchestrate events, we too are our own "Red Cross"...In white of course....

Why don't counties in the tri-state have breakdowns in advance to decide where money goes esp for those who don't have the usual lives as most have...Such as someone whom might be diabetic, needing gluten free items or issues such as myself, Hypokelemia, where you don't know the means to find what nutrients you lack now with limited means. If I did not have my treatments via a port, what life would be like.

For me, there would be no life at all...I would not be here speaking to you about my deepest thoughts. Because I would be like them, not knowing I need these items.

I cannot complain of my issues when I know others out there have these issues and the thousands of homes with at least 1 of 100 could be suffering and not know it.

I have to think to myself during these times what is more of the priority, me selling more clients for my staff etc, or taking me to the problem to work on changing the areas I see as being a necessity.
Not all of us think this way, I do.

I was happy to hear The Knot and various other parts of our world have rallied to raise funds, yet, I cannot help but wonder of the many people and portals etc is it genuinely for personal gain for name recognition? I saw this last week on a wedding planners website claiming she would give a percentage of her "Get Rich Quick" programs to the relief stations. She did not specify whom these funds were going to, or how much, she did say she would reveal the info and whom the $$ was given to later.. shall it be asked ONLY after they have given signed on etc..

I only have one word, YOU SUCK. Yes, Sassi-Me, took out the cub teeth and exchanged them for fangs and went at it...She did not respond to my postings and emails. BUT she quickly rectified the question of ethics and shared one location of a place in LI where one can get help. She also said that if anyone needed money, she would help...So based on that particular offer, ( I have copied it for safe keeping), here is the "Most Generous" offer, I hope if you have financial issues due to this, you take her up on her offer...Yet just hours later she is sharing how "eeery" the destruction was and then sharing a scarf she liked...WTF is that? Why do we say it's OK to behave in this manner?

Well, instead, a really thoughtless person saw my posting and said I was ranting? Who in their right mind would call my trying to save those who were not as affected, yet could be suckered as what others recently experienced but for those who have been living check to check and some have no checks. I wanted to BITCH SLAP her and say, rid the thoughts of your selfish actions you piece of lower than the ground garbage...BUT, I was the better person and decided to share it here...

Here's a video of how the "Get Rich Planner/Money Coach" promotes our world speaking of our brides like they are lunch meat..Making promises of what brides will give in return...Money in the air, a new family, a new mansion I am sick- Truly. What I have learned since seeing this, was beyond what I ever imagined to find...and I cannot digest it.

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Regardless of those who decide not to do much but sit and comment, feel badly for those who have to start life over-I am going to figure a way, to find a better system, a better format for funding and how it's distributed. I have decided not to take on more clients this month. I would rather spend time trying to assist with what I have, I know many do not have the same luxuries as I to close for a month or 2- I am beyond grateful. Esp because I have clients from years ago who just recently had children, I just received the notice and now, the most important part of my career is in need..and not for a new wedding. It's their family.

I had hoped to start my own line of clothes and fabulous finds....I have them ready to go- Instead, I am going to rid them all, pay for what it cost to make them and give a nice percentage of my dream back to those who invested in me..I don't know what that looks like. I do know, I will ask permission to use their name prior to my sale. Meaning a charity not taking any percentage of what we give. They may be a public 501c3, but I will ensure, that what we give, is at minimum 95% to areas "MOST" in need...

I ask those whom also brand, design and more...send items my way...I will sell them, and give the funding to a representative of the charity on site. That is generally how we donate properly Representation of a prominent person or volunteer of such appointed to be that person. I am seeking venues and ask that you join me if you'd like. I have basically 2 weeks to do this, I am sure if I cannot collaborate in this time, when I return from a seminar, I can then begin my "Mission Event" to assist not only brides, but something much more important than a dress or bling..Sorry guys, I don't see myself donating to weddings right now...I do have a nonprofit for this, so I am taking another angle...I do wish for those who have made it past the altar to donate gowns and more..There are many planners etc who have collaborated on that particular focus.

It's easy to focus on getting rich quick...I think we as Americans and outside the US are most savvy of what's needed. I plead for those who have this method to not ask people or play on their heartstrings to give money they don't have in hopes they too can have that pretty home.

I ask that anyone in the US who is interested in donating items, new, and that the money will be given and divided based on the need and area...

I ask if anyone is in the Central/Northern/ Jersey area to please find venues to host these events..I need planners, I need the most anal of organizers...I am one voice, I can sit and donate all day, but it wont' allow for me to answer the question...

Where did it go? How much? How Fast?

If I cannot rally those who can offer this, I will do what I know best, that is to sell my dream to help rebuild someones world in some fashion...it has to be better than nothing at all...

Please join me.
info@samanthagoldberg.com

I'mmm Bacckkkkk!!!

Hey Fab Brides and Fab Aspiring Wedding Vendors!


I have to share how sorry I am that I have not been keeping you update with sharing what's going on in our world @ 12 Bank Street! I hope that you will continue to check-in leave comments and ask away...I have been working on some major items outside just the day to day design etc...I am actually going back on screen, but even more than before...I get to be myself-Beware but watch! Remember, T.V. is not always 100% on par, you have to see the regular day to day to appreciate it's for entertainment.

Does that mean...Oh yes, a show...and not just one...You have all know for years that I shake it up and keeping going. You could equate what that means by comparing me to Glenda "Good Witch" (some may switch that W for a B) on the Wizard of Oz! I so oooo love that movie. Is there such a thing as a "Good Witch"? I think so.

This last weekend, we had 7 amazing events. I wish I had the energy to attend them all. I worked with a wedding @ Trump in Bedminster for another FABULOUS and most detailed wedding. Of course every time I am on the property which is often, I see " The Donald". He often says Sam, you do a lot of weddings here don't you? I said I do, I love the property, who wouldn't? He asked you've worked with some great celebrities here, good work. He is a kitten, with a REALLY big heart and silly...See for yourself below. He is great on T.V and yes he's a ham, but why should that matter? I love that!

On Sunday he had his hosted annual golf tournament and lost for the first time. Of course the Director of Trump National Golf Club, Colette Rochat, ( I LOVE her), says "Mr. Trump, you win every year" lol..One time is not that big of a deal. Well, I don't think he would agree. You have to love the man for being who he is right? Who hates to lose?

It's strange that when I see him, I cannot call him Mr. Trump. I call him Donald. I don't know if that's disrespectful as I am in my mid 40's, and I feel silly calling anyone Mr. or Ms...Do you ever feel this way? Anyway, he has always been kind of enough to take time for my clients whether they are celeb or clients that should be because they truly are amazing at just being "themselves". So I make them feel like a celeb...After all,  a Bride and Groom are the host of honor right? Come on guys, you know you love the attention!

This wedding was a TRUE classic. It was difficult for me for many reasons and none which are negative. I officiated and planned this entire event, including the design aspects. I worked with a florist outside this time. We had too much with other weddings and it needed that special attention.
The wedding was cancelled not once but 4 times.
Pick up your jaw, it wasn't due to not knowing or fighting, budget etc...It was due to the issues of life and the sad things that work in tandem with the good. Illness. Something I know too well.

You did hear right, I officiated. It was probably the biggest honor I have had in this capacity. They are both amazing people who do have faith a strong Catholic background. But due to not belonging to a church or knowing a priest when they do go, they picked the next best thing. "Reverend Sam" whom is Jewish. Ha!  They explained that due to circumstance and only wanting close family and friends, they would like for me to do this.

It was an amazing ceremony as they both wrote their own vows to each other. There were tears, and many of them.I will admit, this was haed to watch and to be that strong person as deep down, I want this forever, for them.. I don't want to share the specifics due to privacy. I met this incredible bride 4 years ago. She called and said she loved watching me on T.V. and the fact that I am a straight shooter-along w/ the "Innate" designs...I think we may have discussed the wedding plans for about 10 minutes if that. We spoke for 4 hours.

When I finally needed to hang up and believe me, I did not want to, I said I look forward to meeting you and I hope we can work together. Not a moment after I said this did she say, I want to work with you. Me, thinking, well don't you want to meet me first? Maybe there is another planner that might suit your needs better? You would think I am a total idiot for saying this, but I do truly want our clients to make the best decision. She said, no I know what I want and I want to work with you so when can we get started?  Gotta love a woman who knows what she wants right?

We did finally meet, it was at my home, I did not want to drive to the office I had 3 at the time. I shared this with her. I felt I could just be honest...It just worked. We signed away and I sent her an email thanking her for the opportunity to work with this amazing day and w/ her soul mate..I for some reason, called her TC..and she called me Sam..I gave her my cell and hers was almost identical. Scary, but in a good way...

She and I, were destined to meet for so many reasons. I never was the Celebrity Wedding Designer on T.V. or just the Wedding Planner..I was a friend which started on the phone. It was like I knew her for years...and we spoke of so many things..My favorites were hers, she was a Type A+ in a high ranked position and worked for a huge corporation in Pharma..I worked in a corporate setting with a high managerial position as well for the professional beauty and fashion supplies world.

Anyway, this could be a long story, and it is...After the 4 cancellations, it finally happened. She finally had her moment with a wonderful person and yes, most certainly her soul mate. It's hard to know how their story will end. They waited 20+ years to find each other. They did previously marry and for over 20 years each person. Sadly, the groom is not well, and while he exudes such light and energy he has surpassed the odds with time given by his doctor over 2 years ago.

Time is valuable...It really is. How lucky I am that they chose me...She has watched me during the hardest of times years ago. I met her just months after I became ill...If I missed a call, she wasn't angry, if I had to cancel, she wasn't upset..and she did the same, it was OK..It took no effort to work with her..or them as a team.

This is how I feel a good fit should be. What I gave her, granted, we had chemistry for so many reasons, it came from my heart and you knew she appreciated it especially since she stood upon the reveal in tears. She was speechless, and I felt amazing and so happy for her...I knew when I took her to Trump as she had many options and budget was not an issue, this was the place.

The photos I have shared, reflect a very elegant, not overstated black and white feel. It's a VERY hard combo for a wedding as you cannot have too much pattern, yet you need it. The atmosphere needs you to allow for a very vanilla start and this was perfect for the vision she had. She did not know my vision and did not ask to see this beforehand. Which yes, most people would be nervous esp as I crossed the line and be-friended a client-However, the justification to myself, I never met a client 4 years ago..

I met a friend...

I hope you enjoy some of the photos. What an incredibly wonderful way to end the weekend...

 

Wedding Buzz Around The World...

Last week I wrote a blog that really felt good to write. It's not too often that I am able to express my thoughts to those around me on the east coast let alone anywhere else.

For some, having people email about a post locally is HUGE...For me personally, to have been given the chance to actually meet aspiring and established industry professionals that live around the world; IS JUST A MEGA dose of smiles.

Have you ever wondered how many people you can make an impact with by saying JUST a few words? Words enough to have someone call you from another country 1/2 way around the world to train with you? I have!!! There have been a handful, but that handful is HUGE in my eyes.

I read my blog stats weekly and show below the daily views. The below stats are from around the world. I took the annual number thus far for 2011..Check it out!

Worldwide Stats for 2011 See Bottom of BLOG for Daily stats!!!

United States 1065

Germany 44

Russia 39

Australia 20

Hungary 14

Japan 100

Namibia 10

Romania 12

I just wanted to express the honor, the excitement and the thanks for your support! i hope you all decide to visit America! I read your emails asking for advice on how to establish this industry where you are. It saddens me to know that you do not have the education where you reside. I am sure this is not going to be a permanent issue!

The good news is that I have started webisodes weekly to share what is happening in our world...and in mine personally..May not always be glammy...But, sharing this, is probably going to save you from making the same mistakes!!!

Happy Tuesday World! It really is not as big as I thought!

xoxoxox

Is The Wedding World as "Glammyrous" as You Think?

This is a question I find myself asking myself (ha) almost daily. Don't mistake this as if I'm not happy with my clients, staff or along with the trust we've been granted. This comment truly means this is not an easy task and to be honest, it's never going to be "easy" (easier, yes).

I so cringe when people say this is simple. There is nothing easy/simple about marriage and planning for one. Get real. This is serious stuff and it's not about us, it's about them.

Sometimes, we may have to wait 2 years+ to hear what a benefit we were to a couple, their families and more. It's worth it, really it is. I don't blame them for being on guard. After all, they meet me for an hour + and they invest in my services to ensure the ones they love are happy. That is not always an easy situation and you do need to work with caution to gain their trust. As a mother, I will expect the same when my 7 year old going on 85 tells me to butt out or snap to it as "You should know me momma".

While I joke about how I fell into this career, it is the truth when I share with various vendors around the world (an honor and still unreal or surreal) this career you see "chose me".

I love that it has allowed me to express a side that wasn't on the list of "wants". I truly love to make people happy. Weddings are just a piece of the bigger puzzle or picture.

I just like it and have developed a passion that I do not see too often in most careers. How many people can say they LOVE what they do?
I don't doubt this judgment and I know if you choose to read this, you too understand what I mean. There are no words.

I have not been on the east coast for long. Actually,it's less than a decade That is not much time to get "acclimated" to the way it works "here". I admit being most envious that I did not have someone like myself to warn me of what would be good, what not to rush into or say and what to stay away from to be successful long term if I really wanted what long term meant. The truth, I jumped in and took a chance. I did have the skill-set no doubt and I believe that my passion is now shown in ways that most of those who aspire see.

They are the ONLY ones that matter at this point, be very clear with that comment.

I did not have a "Me" when I needed it. I want to make sure someone does have this when they are ready to take a leap that could cause a rollercoaster to tip or like me...ruffle the feathers. Maybe that's why I have an obsession with feathers; they do have a huge significance in my life. Hence "Sassi Sammi" the gal behind the boa who really is just like you, but may have issues with the "foot in mouth" syndrome on a few occasions. I do know that some wish they had this trait as there are times we just want to combust maybe that would be therapeutic for some? Don't knock it until you try it. Just be careful with whom, we do have some “miserable players" and they will try to break ya, if you let them.

Is it possible to have someone hate you (a true ethical leader in our industry) yes, hate is a word I don't use for people, food yes. Someone who is that insecure that they destroy certain things that kept you sane in someways. More like a personal vendetta but not knowing you makes that a hard one to understand because you never met them. So what does that mean? It means they suck too. And again, per advice of many who cares? They are right. And they are NOT known or valued as much as they believe they are. Maybe someday, those who do chat will confront them and maybe it will end?

The many agents I have worked with and the vendors I have met have taught me more than I can explain. Most importantly they advised me NOT to care about the others and what they say, if they like me or how they run their business. I did listen to all of them. They said just "Be Sam" and don't give a Da...” And I don't. I am here to do my best and while it's been tough, I have some great memories and accomplishments and more to look forward to later this year.

I have stayed quiet (for me that means no blogging) for so long about so much and am happy that I've a chance to speak honestly about the who's who and the ones that just suck..Sorry. Is suck a bad word?

The concept of networking means you gather info, you help each other and you learn new things with every event you have. Even those of us who have been in the industry for 20+ years screw up. The honest ones will admit this on any given day and the ones who are shady will lie.

Ask them. Look into their eyes and see do they really look back at you with all the "passion" in their soul? No. Not all. Not many and that is just so sad.

I have never met those of my platform aka point in my career, not ever. I have reached out. I'm not too proud. I do know what you feel like when you email someone from TV and you just don't know how to ask for some guidance. Rejection is the worst. You email and re-write over and over because you want it to be perfect. What you need to understand, they are just people who are at a different place in their career. No it's not right and yes it's a shame, but it's not personal. It cannot be. They don't know you and that's their issue not yours. DON'T GIVE UP. DON'T subject yourself to that ask wondering if you can do this. If you doubt yourself, then you will fail.

While I have reached out to many for different reasons, thinking we could have some kind of "bounce the idea" or in once case to warn another professional who is most noted about a "shady" client. It had a negative outcome. I did not have to do this, but as a peer I thought I was doing this person a favor. That "person" had their assistant call me to get more details. You know what I said FU figure it out yourself. Oh and by the way, have a good day. I always end with a smile.

How is it that there are a small number of us in the US under 20 perhaps and we do not communicate with each-other? What is this nonsense I hear about them bring afraid of new planners etc stealing their business? How can you steal something that was never yours? And how can you be so shallow as to think you are that good?

We are the ones that 90% of this industry looks up to. They admire all of us for specific reasons and/or accomplishments. They just want to learn. Where is the crime? We've had many interns, let me tell you only one screwed me. And it hurt me personally, not the company.

So the answer is no I will not stop hiring aspiring planners. However, they must be trained first and whether that is with me or elsewhere, I ask for that.

Let's be honest, I do have an interesting way of doing things. I admit that.

The truth, I just don't care about those things anymore. There is much more that needs to be done. If we don't share the right way to be successful, we will not be a fun, exciting and fulfilling industry for long. We all know this. But yet, no one makes a move.

PLEASE no more seminars for planners about getting rich and buying furs vacations and even a boat...PLEASE stop sharing how social media will be the way to become successful and PLEASE stop having those FAKE REALLY a WASTE of money seminars of how they too can be in magazines? Is that what makes one successful? Really? I use media to share ideas and experiences. Not really my work and what "people" I have worked with. If you really want to know, it's out there.

Is it really that important? Ask yourself is it right to ask those who have just started out to pay hundreds of dollars to hear brags, make more $$ and be famous? You are filling their heads with lies! You know as much as I do the media wants new info, true leaders that change this career and those who share what works. Someone who has never planned won't receive what you claim they will have. Give them something they can call their own, especially if you charge a ton...Forget the crappy swag bags too. They are junk and if they cannot use it or eat it like what we share with clients, they dump it.

We have orgs that are BEYOND fabulous. I am a HUGE ISES fan. In the beauty world they had ISES shows that we worked with 4-6 times a year. ISES has always been good to me and I will continue to say they are the best by far for learning, networking and so many things. Join THEM...and if you cannot afford it, talk to a chapter they will work with you. Sometimes vendors in those particular chapters donate funds so that some can get a break in price. That truly warms my heart.

I admit I have not been active as much as I would like, but am so thankful you hire me to speak. I do not charge a ton based on name or exp, I could, I don't want to.

Now you may ask about other orgs and I cannot honestly say that one particular one is a very good one. Esp. when the president, who I've never met, passed judgment doesn't know me and has never been in the same room as me. This person took the words of one person who has their ear and just believed it. If you knew what was said, if you knew who this was you would be disgusted. You may not believe it. So the paper trail is there when I need it. I have no reason to lie. It hurt, and why did it have to happen?

This person (not saying the XYZ PDQ) has no idea about my background or my abilities and honestly I would describe this "wise one" (Sarcastic for sure. I know you would expect nothing less from me) as a major a cluster fuck.

Yes, I did JUST say the F Bomb...Sorry. I know that many of you have shared these same thoughts and well, what can you do right? You have sent some fabulously funny emails and I thank you for that. And for doing what is right. You are amazing and real.

GUYS...Look into the mirror, whether you have done 1 wedding or 1400, you are who you are and will make this work in the capacity that is meant for YOU.
There are some great educators that can help and no they don't have books with just photos, they don't brag about how many mags they are in and they spend hours in a conference designed just for you w/o robbing you of your first born. BTW, they don't share what celebs they have worked with. That's beyond the scope of cheesy and such a plea for help based on insecurity.

Wouldn't it be great to choose the next president of a trade organization that has absolutely NO CLUE about this biz we are in? One that at least, shares the meaning of the word "Ethics" (not just the word, the MEANING). This is with a straight face instead of like a crinkled tattoo in the "Cracker Jack" box. Yes, they do still have a prize. I love those tattoos...BUT if this person’s face was on one, I might totally eliminate that favorite food for champions.

I do hope that doesn't happen. If it does, maybe I will be left with a less known brand. You know I will make sure that brand does become the next "Cracker Jack Hero". It's what we do when those have great potential. Call it karma. You share, you give and someday when you least expect it, a reward which is not always physical shows itself.

Trust me. This year is not over; We've a great schedule ahead. This means to be a guest speaker, trainer and best form of flattery, to meet more people! My own classes and yes watching my team grow with friends/partners whatever. We have the most amazing clients that have trusted me with more innate design.

How could one not be happy? Guess what? I did not have to change one thing which is proof even a wacky, silly off the wall designer can still make things happen despite those who choose not to partake in that world.

Yes, their loss, I know.

For The Good of Good or For Monentary Gain? Can They Be Linked?

In the last 6 months I think I have won the trophy for the most "Drama" with regard to non-profits and celebratory events general. Honestly, anytime a nonprofit or profit idea is involved it's not always pretty.
I'm very happy about Dream Team and our decision to keep our clients silent and not shown-off which I respect.

We are truly just a small circle of those who work on special situations that allow for an intimate wedding. I think after a year + and going national with coverage doesn't make sense for us as it's not like our service is in huge demand. I am quite happy that it's not.

Small is good, and is manageable. I started on the east coast with 3 states in 2005 and now we are in 13 states with the ability to assist when we can. BUT again, would rather give quality and not quantity. I don't want people to need this service, I know you are savvy. However, when they do need such a service, they have a variety of orgs that can address just about any issue when speaking about a wedding or special event.

Did you know my goal when moving to the east coast was to join a few non-profits and be the best "stay at home" mom? I did not have this growing up and had always hoped to give what I did not receive. I love what I do and that makes it hard to make a decision, why should I?

This particular blog post is not about any specific organizations; It’s about the “for profit” businesses who want to do great things but have to charge a fee in order to make them happen. There is no such thing as free anymore. And to be honest, free is not always a favorable word. Trust me.

In March of 2011, I was asked to Headline an event. An event that was WAY overdue. I could not be happier knowing that my hometown "Chicago" aka IL was approved for same sex marriages. I have no idea why such a simple ask took this long. Politics and the word "Marriage" is really the obstacle on this one as Chicago itself is quite the conservative market when it comes to events.

The possibility of the magic $$$ being made doing something we love, can technically destroy just about anything, if that is your mind set. That would include the new law that was passed so that we can treat anyone who wants to marry the same way. In my eyes, this law is just words just as I say the license is just a piece of paper. It's how you choose to potray your relationship that matters the most. Love is Love... and you cannot argue on this thought.

How can money and same sex marriages be in the same subject? I'm getting there...It's a hard one to describe.

I was asked by Cheryl Hooten to partake in a “for profit” event for on June 1st 2011. A VERY important date for those in IL as same sex marriages were approved. If you are human, you have good ethics,want to be happy and to be accepted, along with being with the one you love, why does anyone have to wait for that? You are already doing the major items that would call for a really meaningful relationship. One that we can assume will last a long time. This is all good!

It wasn't that long ago where I was chosen to be the celebrity planner for the first same sex marriage shown step by step in New Jersey. Christopher and Keith who are not only hysterical, fun and REAL, but have never forgotten me during each year that passes and holidays even after the show.

I love their special handwritten cards asking how things are. I do not get that from many people. I've saved every card and will always hold a space in my heart for them. Fabulous men and YES still together after all of these years BRAVO to you both!

Cheryl Hooten of Dream Day Weddings in MI corresponded with me the week of March 15th 2011. It was about joining her as a headliner for the weddings at the courthouse/etc...She had such an amazing plan to design a inexpensive celebration for those who wanted a mini party or an intimate one while saying their life long vows in front of guests or alone with their partner.

This was a "for profit" event as with anything that is planned, it takes effort and people should be reimbursed for that. I was offered a fee to cover my time and my travels and yes, to be a part of this idea. A large percentage of my fee was going to be donated to various charities. They need this more than I do and I cannot think of a better way to support many different types of charities. So I donate.

Her business plan made perfect sense. She never had an agenda to make millions, but she did need to charge enough to support the idea at the Bolingbrook CC in Bolingbrook IL. What a fabulous venue by the way!I look forward to the day where I am living in Chicago again. I know that things will be different. I have had a taste of reality in my recent visits. I used to think NYC/NJ was very competitive, I can only imagine what's in store for my return. I do not believe in the word fail and I will ensure that this does work. It can always make the clients experience better.

What I have learned about Cheryl is that she is like an open book. I too share that quality and as you all know, I have been kicked for that quality many times. I have decided not to change that quality as 99% of the time, I do not have issues. I cannot lie that the 1% doesn't sting like a bee, but it's not enough to stop.

She had no hidden agendas and while I love this quality at times, it can be thrown back at anyone, I've been there too. And sadly, she shared her business plan (Honest and on paper) with a website which is the "Portal" of many gay friendly vendors located in FL. I had asked many people about this website and no one could tell me much, they had not heard of them. Not that it matters, but if you were there to witness what I did, between Cheryl and a "Gay Friendly" portal which I will share this week, you will have a questionable response..Just as I did.

This was not about Cheryl.

It was about two individuals that started with a handshake agreement and it turned sour due to money. Money that was never asked for, money that was not in a written contract, money that was an ask only after the other party decided to take that business plan and go after a percentage that was never discussed when this relationship took place.

MONEY MONEY MONEY...This is NOT what is supposed to happen with this fabulous and amazing time for those who have fought to have the same rights.

What happened in between this story...It's disgusting. I am going to share a weeks’ worth of a nightmare with you. I will also be linking Cheryl Hooten and her blog to this blog. We will share information that may be disturbing. I have personally taken a vested interest due to my feelings & anger with what is about to happen. I am being proactive which is part of what makes a successful venture.

Amazing what can happen when you have someone, such as the owner of this portal for "Gay" friendly vendors, who claims that they are in FULL support of same sex marriage. One who boasts about "their" family being 1/2 "gay" which is NOT what you share as you are only labeling your own family.."Gay" is judgment, Gay, is not respectful to those who do not share the same preferences in sexual relationships. It’s a word that should not be used bottom line. If the couple decides to announce it this way, great. It's not our right to judge anyone.

We do not have the right to place such a label esp. with our own family, flesh and blood. It's a word that prevents those from living a "normal" life...LABELING them or anyone is only going to stop this from happening. You may not agree with this, but if you give it some time, you will understand my point.

If one chooses to love one sex both sex what does it matter? It's like me bragging about someone in my family having cancer. Yes, this is just like those who used to whisper the word "Cancer" like it was the plague.

When you support same sex you should include them in our world and not name them as they already have names such as “Paul and Mike” or Susan and Donna”.
They are human not an alien. They like Pizza, fashion, laughing, taking a bath, getting their nails done etc…EVERYTHING that we like to do and more.

How sad it is that couples feel they have to warn the businesses etc that they are "Gay" How sad is it when those same people have to label themselves in fear to save the embarrassment they might have if someone denies them in public.

If you take a step back, it’s very similar to the issue between being segregated with many backgrounds, colors and cultures. While in some states slavery has not ended, why we need to segregate again. Why do you think America is called land of the free?

You can choose not to work with anyone outside what "one" thinks is normal/acceptable. I cannot judge a decision or belief. It is you, whom will have to live or work with this opinion. We all have the right to express this at anytime.

“Normal” is the opposite label for Americans as we are far from normal...FAR. Our industry alone is hard enough and to add this into the equation. So why do it?

There is a lot more to this story, and the only individuals that know of this are Cheryl and the 2 individuals who made threats along with destroying the concept.

The goals of the other participants were clearly made to make this event so awful for her that she pulled out completely.
She was given an option that if she would pay 5% of the (Possible earnings) of each click or referral from their site, they could continue this agreement.

This was not noted on paper or contract, written or even thought of prior to Cheryl showing the business plan with estimates of the profits.
There is more…

The “Estimates” meaning if it were to be a success due to the reality that most business plans don’t work 100%. Cheryl will share this with you. It was an honest, well thought out business plan. Her mistake was showing this to the “couple” who then realized, “hey” I want in on this profit...OR… You will see their response as they will be quoted and this is the only one of many emails that are true and authentic.

Not one bit hearsay and 100% fact.

I was included with this issue about profit, being threatened from the portal that their referrals such as the “Bolingbrook CC” and a judge who would issue waivers would be taken away from Cheryl as they gave them to her. She contacted me as she was beyond upset and did not know what to do.

When the referrals were given, again, no ask of 5% or any fees other than for Cheryl’s officiant company to be listed and that the “portal” would advertise her event at n/c. Once you see the emails, this will become fact.

On March 15th I attempted to write a letter in hopes of buffering this issue and to have some resolution between this couple and Cheryl.
I was shown all emails which became more intense as Cheryl did not respond promptly.. endless emails after mine, at least 20, mentioning how I have no idea what is going on, “I should shorten my emails too much to read” or “ I used to blame you, but now I know you have no idea what you are talking about”. I read my email 4 times trying to figure where I might be threatening.

I explained I did not want this to be public as I have been representing some major companies. I also explained that I have shared such great things with the press and what they were offering Cheryl. My fear that if they did not work out somehow, this would become public as they/media will ask why she/I chose to not work with them. Why wouldn’t they ask especially since my comments of them supporting her on their large site for “Gay Friendly” vendors and not being recognized on paper etc”.

This letter amongst every other will be shown this week beginning on 6-13 along with several others that were not directed at me as I blocked them from harassing me. I wanted to be done. I do not regret this battle. I still support the idea of having an event that could/would allow for any couple to partake including same sex marriage.

There is much more, and I will share more tomorrow in hopes to answer your questions, which most likely would be the “How's and Why”?

And while the “portal” mentions that I have threatened them. There is nothing that was threatening about this letter. I will share this as well. To ensure that what I said was proper w/o threats and nothing that would destroy the integrity of my own brand which I do need to protect I shared this with many.

I asked advice from an attorney who happens be a friend, what is the best way to solve this? The advice was to think of a variety of options (3) to make this event happen between Cheryl and the ones who designed this portal. I would hoped that this would have been a chance to let steam die down, and proceed with the plan as Cheryl Hooten has described on her own blog.

Her website is www.dreamgayweddings.com

I personally am saddened, as I would have loved to marry couples and celebrate with them. Its history and to be a part of that is more than an honor.

Why, is this happening? ALL over money..You will not like what you see..BUT it must be shared the right way. There is NOTHING but fact.Again the ONLY person who really knows what occurred in March was Cheryl. She will share what she needs to in order to put this behind and start a new event which will most likely be better than her first original plan. I will ensure this will be done the right way and will help her acheive this idea w/o any threats from anyone.

More tomorrow and thank you for your support in allowing this story to be shared on your blogs and anywhere else you might see as a fit.

Are We Too Convenient For The Copy Cat Planner?

It's that time of year! The wonderful brides we started with over 300 days ago are ready to make that dash down the aisle. Girls' don't forget the groom on your way back!

Some call planning the test of how you and your significant communicate. I would tend to agree with this 99% of the time. They say to "choose your battles". Ladies, this does hold some truth. Trust me on this one.

I love when our clients allow for whimsical/extravagent design and personality! To show the creativity they have invested in to their guests is beyind the best feeling ever! You have no idea how wonderful this feels for me personally and those who have been your partner in crime. Sometimes we may plan 2 years in advance. There is so much that can happen during this time and the details are amazing. Sometimes, this can be too long and can make anyone a bit crazy waiting to execute the plans that we have put together during this time.

BUT...It does work out every time!

We know that every couple wants a wedding that is reflective of their relationship. "A true one of a kind". Those who know of me understand my goal in keeping this promise, I do take this very seriously. Some things may not be 100% possible and may seem like the icebreaker for the "wow" factor.

The decor, dress, rings, shoes, floral, music, venue, limo, makeup, rented tuxes and etc dosen't make or break the marriage. These items don't determine who you are. They are what one envisions for an important occasion. And is not a good enough reason to place such pressure on yourself. Decor is not a need, but your happiness with friends and family there with you is.

There are only 2 proven items that are considered "Perfect" One is chocolate and the other is when you steal someones heart.

Speaking of the desire to be different, I too would like to be noted for the unique vision and incredible passion I hope to share with our peers about our past clients. I'm not looking to share this information unless you truly care about your clients.

Some of what I have shared and then "witnessed", doesn't show this off in the best light. Why you ask? I see those who are just luring them in based on lies (pr maybe what you hope to have). The client today is going to figure out your experiemce level once you open your mouth. There is never an exception to this rule.

Your not going to be giving the client the same service. Trust me, they can see right through you.

We live in a world where most things pertaining to "being the best" at the job or the sport etc, are the main focus, They are thought to be a priority with anything one might encounter. I would be lying if I said I wasn't irritated by this.

I've spent many years trying to grow my business and focus on items that deem to be more important than the issues that happen on a regular basis. Items such as SABOTAGE and PLAGIARISM. Don't mind the caps with the words, I'm expressive what can I say?

These are words that happen everyday and leave one thinking that if they're going to succeed in this industry, they're going to have this in life whether they like it or not. I don't like it. I don't/won't accept it & I do believe this can be fixed.

Your probably wondering what is "she" going to say this week, right? What type of drama will she share? Well the good news is I'm not going to share anything negative. This is truly to share an experience.

There are those who can sway a client away from those who may charge more for services. The "Swayers" may make themselves appear as successful, but we the "seasoned professionals", can smell you a mile away. It's like a letter I read in Feb 2011 about an employee of mine, taking a client and charging her way more than she deserves and stating, if they decide to use you, they can save a whopping 10%. Wow..Yep. This happened to me this year.

You know that saying that some people can sell a dog crap? Or even better, They have a great investment in the swamp-lands of FL to sell you? You don't need to worry about me brides and grooms, you need to worry about those listed in the swamp.

Funny mention...

There is now a site called, www.poopsenders.com. Yes, they will send shit to anyone who has been a shit for the amazing investment of $19.95 and $9.99 shipping and handling. I should have bought stock in this one. I have dealt with some "shit" earlier this year.

This is part of the crap...I had to "eat" in order to get stronger...

COPY CAT "TOP 2" in 2011!!!!

Simply Glamorous Events"
This is a event planning company which is owned by Nellie Rodriguez Link is www.simplyglamorousevents.com. Nellie took my planning course last year June 2010. She failed every quiz and made some rather "stupid" decisions when I was kind enough to invite her to a book release party to make some extra money serving items to guests. The pay was quite generous and we were happy to have her join us.

She mentioned she needed to make extra money on a few occassions and well, I wanted to help. This was a last minute ask and was happy it worked out. Well, not really. It really didn't work out. Why? Well Nellie had to meet someone at her home due to some flooding issues. She did not share this with us. She had her sister take her place. Wow, I have never been more embarrassed and just upset about her decision to NOT share this last minute change. Why on earth would one do a "switcharoo" with a family member who has NEVER trained with me? I did not sign off on this and for one to assume I would be OK? This "action" definitely assured me that she never listened to what I said in class and why she felt the "Ala Carte' area was a package.That was commical! Beware of Glamourous Events in NJ folks...

Nellie thought I should be grateful that she found someone to take her place. Well, I see things a bit differently. Her sister was late, upset my agent due to her inability to handle a simple task of passing appetizers. That was a poor reflection of me. She also knew that my agent would NOT be reimbursing this help for a week. I was kind enough to ask her sister that she was not going to be paid for a week. I offered to pay for the sister I have never met. She did not even have $40 for the parking. That was additional and was reimbursed.

I should have known better than to expect that a student of Nellies capacity would be professional especially when she failed every test we had during the duration of the course. Yes,like I said above, she thought a-la carte was a package. She failed every test and with items that were truly just common sense.

I would say based on her "borrowing" of the exact wording of my packages and dishonest information about being in business for 10 years. I want to share that there are some items that are incorrect on purpose on the packages that were "borrowed". I think I will let Neliie the 10 year planner "vet" figure them out. However, I am not sure if she even knows what these items mean. Whatever.

I would just say beware on this one. She has little to NO experience and Those who lie about such things along with plagiarizing my programs, will lie about other things too. I would say thumbs down with Nellie Rodriguez. She doesn't have 10 years experience and she was not certified by me. Sorry.

Let's be clear, packages are not the "portal" of my or ones success. Twenty years would be the correct way to assume my experience level is at least 100% better and stronger than Nellies. Just Sayin'?


2. Belle Fete' Weddings. Jayme Knast Engelhardt. Jersey Shore Area

This particular situation, is most saddening for me. You hire those who seem to be genuinely honest and want everyone to succeed. You hope that when you allow someone to have a career with something that have been dreaming of that when they leave, they stay honest and leave with compassion/respect not burning bridges. I don't know where to begin. I will say, Jayme, doesn't have over 10 years in the event planning industry either. What is with the gals that take my course and lie about 10 years? It's easy to say this as she worked with me, and only me. So I know this to be true.

She also took my course and shortly after, I gave her what she wanted. Her very first wedding was on June 19th 2010. She did not prepare for this wedding as she was going through her own planning. I told her to relax, not worry about things. Any good boss or lead planner would only share the same respect and space as to her own clients , right?

I apologise to the many people who offered to work for experience at this particular wedding. They truly wanted to learn about this business.I would usually ask most to take the class as I have little time for a strong bit of training on a reg basis.

On the day of the largest/most detailed wedding we had last year, I made sure my entire staff base was trained VERY well. I think all 10 of my planners agree, they were prepared and reimbursed for an event that they did very little for. In fact, Mrs Knast mentioned to a few of our planners that she did not understand why she was there, there was nothing to do. I have never met someone who would ask that? Especially while this was a experience that most would give anything to observe and learn.

I think for me, having nothing major to do on the day of, is a good sign and showed I was prepared for a long time. I would guess if I were that bored, why didn't they leave? Why did you stay unless you saw the $$$ in the mirror. She obviously felt OK about excepting such a large sum for doing nothing as she stated. It must be me as I would never do that.

Life went on...We worked with many more clients and well...I thought we were OK? So I thought.

This email below, really disappointed me & was beyond words. Not only was my very own employee telling clients to send monies directly to her instead of me, but she also took the leads I had given to her and sold them as her own. I have attached the letter so for those who haven't really understood the issue, can see what I reviewed. How does one express such hurt? You don't. You vent to your friends and I think to share via blog...

Jane,(Client name listed below was hidden) I have to be honest, this was the only time I have ever had to deal with someone who stole from me and my company. And it's not just financial, it's leads, contracts and verbiage taken from my own clients that trusted her.

Dear Jane,

I was thinking after we got off the phone........since you are utilizing mine and (another planner of mine) services for 90% of your wedding, wouldn't it make sense to go directly through our other company? We do work separately from Samantha's company from time to time, especially if we are doing most of the work on an account and we feel that we can save the client some extra $$$$.

As far as the design, we have the same capabilities and resources as Samantha and would be able to fully design your wedding, everything we spoke about would remain the same, but we can do it for 10% less, so that would mean that option #2 would be $3,000 instead of $3350. We are able to charge a bit less because we use our own overhead and supplies from our homes, and not Samantha's office.

However, as far as the reveal for the design goes, we can still utilize the space in Summit so you can see what you would be getting. Other meetings we can use my office in Point Pleasant since that is closer for you :)(This is not Jayme's office, this is where she works part-time FYI).

It's a DJ/Entertainment company. A very nice person owns this company and sadly, due to this, we are no longer friendly). It's actually a bit odd when we speak now. It's hard to find "real" friends/business contacts in the event world. I have a wonderful following and despite my thoughts, such as this one, they still respect what I have accomplished.

Wait there is more to the letter:

Again, nothing that we spoke about would change, except for the fact that (Blank) and I would also be handling your design ideas, as opposed to Samantha, AND you will be paying less $$$$. If this is of any interest to you, please let me know! The decision is all yours, but just trying to save ya some moolah :)

(Moolah? I want you to understand, this is not the way we talk in the event industry. This is how a truck driver/used car salesperson might work, not my employees.

Have a great night and I hope you feel better soon!!!

Jayme




Other emails from Mrs Knast to various leads and to my own clients were also quite disturbing. Trust is a VERY important thing in our industry. If you don't stay true to who you are and you feel "entitled" You should allow your client to go elsewhere. They use our service to be stress free. I'm here to assure you, they will have nothing less than stress free.

I have to ask, do you know what it feels like to have an employee take your new client contract and eliminate your logo, info and replace with theirs? I cannot describe the hurt and "unsettled" feelings. There are just no words for this. Do you know what it feels like to read emails to clients about being "less"?

The problem with having your own company and being passionate about all that you do is that you think with your heart and you expect that everyone else will follow. I have worked very hard to get to where I am in life and with my career. It's much too important to allow for this to happen again. I finally have the team I need. The ones who don't care about the income first. They think of the client. Isn't that how it should be?

I did make this easy for Jayme. I trusted, I did not stay at the office everyday. I did allow for her to take a lot. Some might say if I was there more often, maybe I could have prevented this. I do not have regrets, my time in the field, and reconnecting with life was the best decision I made.

If it wasn't for a "fluke" situation, I may not have discovered this. I cannot thank our vendors, employees and even our clients who approached me and shared this information. Why would someone try to sabotage a successful teacher? That is what I was. I can only assume it plays along with the I am "entitled" attitude she portrays. In some ways I can say, I did a great job with what she learned. I thought I was teaching morals, my teachings were used to be deceitful who would ever use a client who entrusts you with such a special day? Jayme would.

I would ask if you have been told to mail a check to Mrs Knast and/or paid her in cash, check made to cash and or Pay Pal, please contact Samantha Goldberg immediately. Jayme Knast does not have an office in Point Pleasant (Her living quarters,yes). She is a employee for a entertainment company as well as a planner on the side. The entertainment company covers DJ/MC and various enhancement products. She is no longer with Samantha Goldberg and Co/Gold Events LLC as of Feb 8th 2011.

Jayme's experience level is novice (Beginner) with no formal design training. She worked with less than 10 weddings during her employment with SG&Co. Jayme has not been in the event and catering industry for ten years. That is incorrect information. She worked as a restaurant manager prior to accepting employment and planned her own wedding.

We do have documentation that she is currently using my companys contractual agreements and programs. This written agreement does not belong to Mrs Knast and is the sole property of Samantha Goldberg and Co.

I do not want to cause havoc, I want to show the truth. I do not mind that she is now friendly with the 2 vendors that we no longer work with. I can only hope that they never have the same issue. Again, they may right this very moment. I will say any pretty face can hide this and I thought I was good with scams. I guess I was not good enough.

This posting was not used to be vindictive. My sole purpose is to allieviate some of the after effects that this has left me with. I do have a heart and she broke it. I will do whatever I can to prevent anything of this nature to happen to those I do business with in the future.

With regards to the "friends" I thought I had lost, well I guess they were never my friends. That is also a hard lesson to learn. I did bring certain companies to another level. I know they have not forgotten this and will not lose sight of our workings. They can't, it was a good thing.

It really was. I now have new teams and new goals...They are much stronger than I imagined. Who would have thought it could get better? Not me.